To bite one’s Tongue

Naomi Kelechi Di Meo

Speech does not circulate under equal conditions. It is often treated as a transparent medium, something that carries meaning from one person to another without altering it, yet in practice it operates within a field that is already structured; where the voice is never received in isolation from the body that produces it and where certain ways of speaking are granted immediate credibility while others are slowed down, questioned, and quietly displaced before they can even fully register. What appears as communication is already an arrangement of positions, a distribution of legitimacy that precedes the sentence itself.

“To speak” is therefore not only to express a thought, but to enter a space in which access is unevenly organized, where tone, pace, accent, and perceived correctness function as criteria through which presence is filtered. These criteria are not neutral, they are shaped by histories that exceed language as such, by racialised and classed expectations that determine in advance what can be heard as coherent, credible, translating into belonging. In this sense, language is not only evaluated, it is already racialized before it is even heard.

One does not encounter this structure all at once. It is learned gradually, through a series of small events that accumulate without ever fully announcing themselves. A compliment that arrives with a note of surprise. The insistence on correctness where meaning is already clear. The moment in which hesitation alters how a sentence is received. None of these moments are decisive on their own, yet together they produce a shift in how speech is inhabited. Language ceases to be simply a means of expression and becomes something that must be managed, shaped in advance in relation to how it might be heard.

Within this configuration, speaking begins to resemble an audition more than an exchange. One does not simply say something and then get evaluated. Evaluation is already present, it precedes speech and reorganizes it before it takes form. What is at stake is not only intelligibility, but the alignment between the speaker and the expectations that define what can be recognized as legitimate within a given space. The sentence is never entirely free from this relation. It carries with it the anticipation of how it will be received, where it might falter, how quickly it must move in order to avoid being fixed in place and examined.

It is here that the difference between languages becomes legible. Im confident to say that both English and Italian are my native languages. In Italian, I speak fast. Not because I lack control, but because control takes this form. The sentence contracts, pauses are reduced, hesitation is removed before it can become visible. What is being managed is not only the content of what I am saying, but the time in which it is exposed. To slow down would mean remaining longer within the field of evaluation, allowing the voice to detach from the sentence and become an object of scrutiny on its own terms. Acceleration limits that possibility. It creates continuity, a surface that is more difficult to interrupt, a way of moving through without leaving too many points where judgment can settle.

In English, the same pressure does not organize speech in the same way. The sentence can remain open for longer, hesitation does not immediately require correction, and the need to resolve every thought in advance recedes. The difference does not lie in the language itself, but in the position from which it is spoken, and in the thresholds that define how that speech will be received. In one case, failure is anticipated and must be constantly avoided; in the other, it is not expected in the same way, and therefore does not structure the sentence from the outset. What changes is not fluency, but the conditions under which fluency is recognized.

This asymmetry reveals something that is often left implicit. Language does not operate only as a gate that one either passes or does not. It functions as a continuous audition, where belonging is never fully secured but constantly tested through speech. One is not simply inside or outside. One remains by maintaining alignment, by producing forms of expression that can circulate without triggering doubt.

The tongue, in this sense, becomes a territory.

Not a metaphorical one, but a material site where policing and passing take place simultaneously, where speech is monitored through diffuse forms of scrutiny and where alignment with a norm determines whether movement is possible without resistance. What is being assessed is not only correctness, but proximity, not only grammar, but the degree to which the speaker can be positioned within an existing order without disturbing it.

This dynamic becomes particularly visible in moments where access depends directly on speech. After undergoing surgery, my mother contacted a physiotherapist to arrange follow-up care. She spoke in Italian, with an accent and grammatical inconsistencies.The response was immediate: there was no availability.

I called back. Same request, same situation. This time, there was space. Nothing had changed except the voice.

What appears in this shift is not simply an isolated instance of discrimination, but a mechanism that operates through language itself. Before anything is evaluated, a sorting has already taken place. The request is not heard in the same way, because the speaker is not positioned in the same way. Language determines who is taken seriously before content is even processed, who is granted care, attention, credibility, and who must struggle to access them.

This is not reducible to individual bias. It reflects a broader structure in which language hierarchies are tied to colonial, national, and class formations that define certain ways of speaking as standard, as neutral, as educated, while marking others as suspect, as excessive, as in need of correction. “Good Italian” is never just about grammar. It signals proximity to a norm that carries with it assumptions about education, about cultural belonging, about class position. To perform it is not only to speak correctly, but to align with a set of expectations that exceed language itself.

This is where the margins of territory become internal. They are not only located at borders or in peripheral spaces, but within the everyday conditions of communication through which space is inhabited. They appear in the differential distribution of attention, in the uneven tolerance for hesitation, and in the varying degrees of scrutiny applied to different bodies. Some speakers are allowed to take time and to speak without being immediately assessed. Others are required to anticipate that assessment at every step.

Over time, this produces a specific relation to speech that is both cognitive and physical. Breath shortens, pauses are reduced, the sentence is constructed in advance so that it can pass quickly enough to avoid interruption. What might appear as fluency is often the result of this continuous adjustment, a form of alignment that conceals the conditions under which it is produced. This adjustment is not neutral. It accumulates as tension, it manifests as anxiety, as a constant low- level stress that does not always attach to a specific moment but remains present as a background condition of speaking, shaping how and when one enters language at all. It is not uncommon, in this context, to observe how children who are born and raised within a language can nonetheless struggle to inhabit it without strain, developing forms of selective mutism, stuttering, or withdrawal that are often treated as individual difficulties rather than as responses to an environment in which speech is already loaded with expectation. The pressure to perform belonging through language, to demonstrate alignment with a norm that is never fully neutral, produces a specific kind of fatigue, one that is unevenly distributed across different linguistic contexts.

The structure that sustains this process is not centralized, yet it is highly effective. It operates through everyday interactions, through a multiplicity of small judgments that accumulate without ever fully stabilizing. It produces a condition in which presence is constantly exposed to evaluation, where continuation depends on remaining acceptable to an audience that is not fully visible yet always operative. The logic is not distant, and tt resembles something familiar... a space where one remains as long as one aligns, where removal does not need to be explicit to be effective.

The structure that sustains this process is not centralized, yet it is highly effective. It operates In this sense, to bite one’s tongue is not only to remain silent. It is to learn, often very early, how to remain audible without ever becoming too visible.

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